The Heart of What Matters (HOWM) is a 40-minute, interactive, story-based presentation that safely and respectfully explores why support for marriage equality is on the rise. At meetings of civil, social and other groups, it allows people on all sides of this issue to come together and explore the topic. HOWM seeks to increase the lived equality of LGBTQ people in their communities by increasing compassion, understanding, and a recognition of our shared humanity. This "hearts and minds" work is what we can do now.